15 Journal Prompts for Questioning Your Sexuality (Free Download)
- Brittany Glasscock
- 3 days ago
- 3 min read
If you’ve ever typed “am I a lesbian?” into a search bar and closed the tab feeling more confused than before, you’re not alone.
Questioning your sexuality doesn’t always arrive with fireworks or certainty. For many women, it shows up quietly as discomfort in straight dating, an inexplicable pull toward women, or as a nagging feeling that something about the script you were given never quite fit. That’s where journaling can help.
Below, you’ll find 15 journal prompts for questioning your sexuality, created specifically for women unpacking attraction, identity, and the effects of compulsory heterosexuality (comphet). These prompts are reflective, body-aware, and intentionally pressure-free. You don’t need to land on a label to use them. You just need curiosity.
You can also download the full free printable PDF if you want a private, distraction-free space to write.
Why Journaling Helps When You’re Questioning Your Sexuality
Many women are taught how to be straight long before they’re taught how attraction actually feels.
Compulsory heterosexuality is the social conditioning that assumes women will be attracted to men, and it can make lesbian attraction feel confusing, delayed, or invisible. Journaling helps interrupt that noise. It allows you to notice patterns, sensations, and emotions you may have learned to override.
Instead of asking, “What am I?” these prompts help you ask:
What do I feel?
When did I feel most alive?
What was desire, and what was expectation?
Remember: There are no wrong answers here.
The 15 Journal Prompts for Questioning Your Sexuality
Use these prompts in any order. Answer one a day, or return to the same prompt multiple times as your understanding evolves.
1. When was the first time a woman made you pause, feel shy, or notice your body differently?
Describe the moment without explaining it away.
2. What messages were you taught about what you were “supposed” to want romantically?
Whose voice do those messages belong to?
3. Have you ever mistaken relief, safety, or approval from a man for attraction?
What did that feel like physically?
4. In 30 seconds, list everything you genuinely love about women.
No editing. Just jot it down.
5. If no one was watching, judging, or depending on you, who would you feel free to love?
6. How does your body respond around women compared to men?
Notice tension, softness, curiosity, excitement, or calm.
7. Who was your “this feels different and I don’t know why” girl?
What drew you to her?
8. Write your coming-out story so far, even if it’s unfinished or just for you.
9. Write how old you were when you first questioned your sexuality using your non-dominant hand (or feet).
Life is chaos, lean in.
10. What has heterosexuality felt like for you?
Desire, obligation, performance, safety, numbness (or something else)?
11. When you imagine your future (weekends, aging, holidays) who is there with you?
12. What does real attraction feel like in your body?
Focus on sensation, not logic.
13. Is there a woman you framed as admiration who might have been attraction?
14. What stereotypes about lesbians made it harder for you to claim the word for yourself?
15. Write a letter to your younger self who was trying so hard to be straight.
What does she deserve to know now?
What These Prompts Are (and Aren’t)
These prompts are:
Reflective, not diagnostic
Supportive of questioning, late bloomers, and unlabeled identities
Grounded in lived experience, not stereotypes
They’re not a test and won’t tell you who you have to be. The prompts exist to help you listen to yourself more clearly.
Download the Free Journal Prompts PDF
If you want these prompts in a clean, printable format you can return to anytime:
The PDF includes:
All 15 prompts
Space to write by hand or digitally
A private, pressure-free format
Related Reading: “Am I a Lesbian?” Resources
If this resonated, you may want to explore:
These articles go deeper into the patterns many questioning women notice while journaling.
Questioning your sexuality doesn’t mean you’re confused, it often means you’re finally paying attention. Take your time and be gentle with yourself. Remember: curiosity is not a commitment
