Sapphic Slvttery 101: Reclaiming Pleasure, Safety, and Lesbian Sex Education

Purity Culture Ruined the Sex Talk

Purity culture watered down the entire concept of sexual education with shame. Straight people got a censored “wait until marriage” speech, while queer women got… nothing. Our sex lives were either erased entirely or fetishized for the male gaze. No one ever explained how two women could have safe, affirming, healthy sex, because the system refused to acknowledge that we exist outside of pornography.

I didn’t know what a dental dam was until my 30s. I didn’t know STI transmission could happen through oral sex. I didn’t even know what STI prevention looked like for queer women. That’s how deep the erasure runs.

And if you’re reading this thinking, “same,” you are not behind!

What I Learned After Coming Out at 30

Full disclosure: I learned more about sexual health after coming out as a lesbian than I did in all my years of straight-coded sex ed. I already had a child, but I was only just learning how to protect myself in queer sex. That realization was both humbling and infuriating.

Knowledge is more than power: It’s safety. It’s agency. It’s liberation.

I realized that understanding safe sex as a queer woman isn’t about shame; it’s about sovereignty. And if that makes someone uncomfortable, that’s their problem.

STIs Aren’t Moral Failures

Let’s get one thing straight (well, gay): STIs are not dirty, shameful, or a punishment. They’re infections (like colds or flus) that spread through contact. Some are mild, some are serious, but none make you less worthy of pleasure or love.

The goal isn’t to fear them, it’s to respect them.

Precaution is empowerment. Get tested regularly, yes, but also arm yourself with the right tools. Here’s your starter pack for sapphic slvttery:

• Finger cots: for hand play and protection.

• Dental dams: or better yet, Lorals (latex panties you can actually enjoy wearing, trust me 😉).

• Gloves: especially if there are cuts, hangnails, or toys involved.

• Condoms: for toys, oral play, or shared equipment.

• A “hoe bag”: your mobile safe-sex kit. Cute, discreet, and practical.

These aren’t just accessories; they’re expressions of self-respect.

Why “Slut” Isn’t a Dirty Word

Part of this class is unpacking why the word “slut” got such a bad reputation. “Slut” is a weapon patriarchy forged to shame women for sexual autonomy. For sapphics, that word becomes even more charged, because our pleasure was never supposed to exist without men.

But “sapphic slvttery” isn’t about chaos or conquest. It’s about reclaiming joy, curiosity, and connection. It’s about being gay as hell on purpose, and with pride.

Sapphic joy is not for male consumption. It’s for us.

Welcome to Class

Hi, I’m Brittany. I’m a lesbian educator, content creator, and proud late bloomer. Sapphic Slvttery 101 is where I’ll teach you how to own your sexuality outside the male gaze.

I don’t do purity politics here. You don’t need to fit any mold, label, or performance to belong. You need curiosity and an open mind.

So whether you’re here because you’ve just heard the words “dental dam” for the first time, or because you’re ready to level up your sapphic self-knowledge, welcome home.

Queer education shouldn’t be a secret; it should be celebrated.

Learn How to Be Gay as Hell

Each post in this series will break down one piece of the sapphic sex education puzzle:

• How to use safe-sex tools without killing the vibe

• How to communicate needs and boundaries confidently

• How to unlearn shame and rediscover pleasure

• How to separate your sexual identity from the male gaze

If that sounds like the class you wish you’d had, you’re in the right dyke’s blog. We’re not just talking about sex, we’re talking about liberation. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️✊